Anonymous Message:
I am so mad because my boyfriend is obsessed with playing his video games. He pays more attention to his xbox than he does me. His idea of a perfect date is him playing Black ops for hours while I watch. I feel like his xbox is his first love. I am sure other girls don’t have this problem with their bf’s. WHY me?
Trust me, other girls definitely have this problem too! The idea of watching your boyfriend play Xbox for hours may make you sick, but it’s possible he just doesn’t realize that it’s not something you’d like. Think of it this way, he really likes you and he really likes his Xbox, therefore maybe he’s thinking that you’d really enjoy sharing something he likes. Next time, try and suggest other date ideas that you think you two would both enjoy. If he still insists on Call of Duty dates calmly explain to him that you want to spend more quality time with him and that you’re feeling slightly neglected. It’s important to support your partners hobbies and interests but when they impinge on your happiness within the relationship it’s important that you speak up. Hopefully your boyfriend just didn’t realize how much this bothered you and will make the effort to pay more attention to you, if not then his priorities are not in order. If a relationship is not benefiting you like it should never be afraid to say game over.
Anonymous Message:
What would you do if you were being told to go die every single day? How do you go to school where no one bothers to talk to you, or look at you, or even acknowledge that you are still here?
The sad fact of life is that kids can be cruel, and quite unobservant. You may think that people are ignoring you because they don’t like you, but I can assure you that’s not true. In reality it’s just because sometimes people get too wrapped up in their own lives to see beyond themselves at times. The kids you pass by in the halls, one might be thinking about the huge physics test they have next period, another might be thinking about the fight they had with their mom this morning… I’m sure many of them would love to make a new friend, (especially a friend as incredible as I know you are) but like I said they get too wrapped up in their own little world reach out and talk to someone new. It can be hard to make the first move, to put yourself out there and talk to new people, but only by reaching out can you open yourself to making truly great friends. You’d be surprised how many people you find who feel the exact same way as you, who wanted acknowledgement and was just waiting for someone to talk to them. You asked me what I would do if I were being told to go die every single day…. Well, I would think that for every person telling me to ‘go die’ there’s at least a dozen people who look forward to seeing me everyday. The same is true for you, it doesn’t by any means excuse their words, (which are cowardly, hateful and stemming from their own lack of confidence) but just don’t let them hold any weight. Surround yourself with people that love you and know that your life means something. It means something to all the people who care about you. And if you think about all the people who love you and you still don’t think your life means something to anyone, know that it means something to me.
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